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Self-Compassion Changed My Life.

I was once a perfectionist. I saw it as one of my top qualities: that I would work until something was done to the best of my abilities. Because I worked so hard, I was disappointed and disillusioned when things didn’t work out as hoped. For example, I was a professional actor for most of my…

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There really is No One Way.

Sometimes, there are unintended consequences, even when we think we’re very clear. Last October, I was excited to launch the No One Way™ project with this post. From October to this past January, I posted 36 “sketches” that different people created, depicting their own unique, non-linear career paths. You can see all of the sketches…

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Is this some kind of joke?

Do you remember the one about my grandfather passing, my basement flooding, and my boyfriend breaking up with me all in one week? Seriously, it sounds like the set-up of a (not funny) joke, doesn’t it?! Last week, I had a doozy of a day. ~8:30am~ I had my first-ever mammogram. (Hello, 40.) ~9am~ I had an…

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A Gentle Wake-Up Call (and a special announcement)

First off, I’m grateful for all of the responses I got to my last post. Announcement ~ Based on the emails I’ve received, I’m opening up five coaching spots for individuals struggling to move forward after the end of a significant relationship. If you or someone you know is struggling to move on, details are at…

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You Will Be Okay.

A few weeks ago, I wrote about approaching my 40th birthday. I’ve been thinking a lot about the difference between me-now and me-awhile-ago. A lot of it’s related to the conversation I have with myself. It’s changed wildly over the last twenty years. Several mornings this past week, one of the first thoughts I’ve strung together…

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Two Days Before I Turn 40

This week, I turn 40. 39 was the hardest year in all of my thirties. A year ago, on March 1, I was so excited for my next year. I wrote in my journal, “39, bring it on! I’m ready to love you and live you! I had (and thankfully still have) my health, a growing…

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Part Four: The Rebel

This is Part 4 in a 4-part series about The Four Tendencies. This series was inspired by working with one of my dear clients… She’s an exemplary client during sessions. When she shows up, she’s always present, communicative, honest, and invested. At the end of every session, she feels clarity and excitement to go forth…

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Part Three: The Upholder

I have some friends who have always mystified me. How do they always seem to get everything done? One of my oldest, dearest friends is a talented playwright… She’s always carved out time to write, even when she was just starting off and hadn’t had any plays produced. She now works full-time as a university professor…

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No One Way! (Sketch 35)

Meet Cynthia Jones… I asked Cynthia… What advice would you give your 20 year old self, looking back from where you are now? Life isn’t a race, and it doesn’t have a set path. Be deliberate in recognizing what YOU want and value. Don’t do what you SHOULD – such marry because it’s the next…

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Part Two: The Questioner

I appreciate all of the feedback to last week’s post about the Obliger Tendency. One reader wrote, “I’m huddled in my bedroom getting caught up on all my work and personal emails. I was feeling so upset—honestly, I thought I was having a nervous breakdown. But miraculously, your blog was waiting for me, and I feel better because I know I’m…

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Part One: The Obliger

At the end of last year, I read a book that completely changed the way I look at myself and others. It’s called The Four Tendencies, by Gretchen Rubin. (I initially wrote about it in this post.) Upholder, Obliger, Questioner, or Rebel? I think the Tendencies are so important to understand (and to recognize in ourselves and others) that I’m doing…

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A new journey has begun.

Happy New Year! I hope that your holidays were joyful and relaxing. I started the new year with yoga yesterday, led by one of my favorite instructors. She read us a lovely passage at the beginning of our practice. I thought you might like it, too. “Beginnings can be delicate or explosive. They can start almost invisibly or arrive…

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