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Two Days Before I Turn 40

This week, I turn 40. 39 was the hardest year in all of my thirties. A year ago, on March 1, I was so excited for my next year. I wrote in my journal, “39, bring it on! I’m ready to love you and live you! I had (and thankfully still have) my health, a growing…

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Part Four: The Rebel

This is Part 4 in a 4-part series about The Four Tendencies. This series was inspired by working with one of my dear clients… She’s an exemplary client during sessions. When she shows up, she’s always present, communicative, honest, and invested. At the end of every session, she feels clarity and excitement to go forth…

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Part Three: The Upholder

I have some friends who have always mystified me. How do they always seem to get everything done? One of my oldest, dearest friends is a talented playwright… She’s always carved out time to write, even when she was just starting off and hadn’t had any plays produced. She now works full-time as a university professor…

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No One Way! (Sketch 35)

Meet Cynthia Jones… I asked Cynthia… What advice would you give your 20 year old self, looking back from where you are now? Life isn’t a race, and it doesn’t have a set path. Be deliberate in recognizing what YOU want and value. Don’t do what you SHOULD – such marry because it’s the next…

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Part Two: The Questioner

I appreciate all of the feedback to last week’s post about the Obliger Tendency. One reader wrote, “I’m huddled in my bedroom getting caught up on all my work and personal emails. I was feeling so upset—honestly, I thought I was having a nervous breakdown. But miraculously, your blog was waiting for me, and I feel better because I know I’m…

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Part One: The Obliger

At the end of last year, I read a book that completely changed the way I look at myself and others. It’s called The Four Tendencies, by Gretchen Rubin. (I initially wrote about it in this post.) Upholder, Obliger, Questioner, or Rebel? I think the Tendencies are so important to understand (and to recognize in ourselves and others) that I’m doing…

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A new journey has begun.

Happy New Year! I hope that your holidays were joyful and relaxing. I started the new year with yoga yesterday, led by one of my favorite instructors. She read us a lovely passage at the beginning of our practice. I thought you might like it, too. “Beginnings can be delicate or explosive. They can start almost invisibly or arrive…

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No One Way! (Sketch 32)

Meet Kimberly Reid… Looking at her sketch, Kimberly writes…  In 2015, my career took an about face and landed straight on its head, and in a sense, returned me to why I started doing the work I chose to do 15 years prior. What was evident to me in 2015 was that I felt stuck,…

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Leftover goals from 2017? How to Make Them Happen in 2018.

​​​I’m constantly reading “self-help” books. I love them for my own personal development and I love learning new ideas that might help my coaching clients. Every once in a while, I read a book that completely changes the way I look at something. Gretchen Rubin’s The Four Tendencies is one of those rare books, one that makes…

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No One Way! (Sketch 29)

Meet Diana Widman… I asked Diana… What was the biggest surprise along the way?  My answer to this question feels more like a slow revelation than a surprise. I’ve learned that each part of my career, although very varied in function, has fed the next step in subtle ways. For instance, my writing (English and…

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No One Way! (Sketch 26)

~ This past October, I launched No One Way™ over in Instagram.  ~ The project visually illustrates how people have really gotten to where they are now. ~ Every M/W/F, I post a new career sketch on IG. Every Friday, we do a deep dive into one of the sketches here.  Meet Anne… I asked Anne… What advice…

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We do the best we can.

One of my best friends shared this Maya Angelou quote with me a few years ago. “Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.” Actually, my friend paraphrased it a bit. I might like her version even more. “We do the best we can until we know…

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