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Let’s Be Real.

Have you seen this place before? It’s nicknamed the “Gates of Heaven” and it’s on the eastern coast of Bali. Spoiler alert… That picture is FAKE. People wait in line for hours to get a picture taken WITH A MIRROR. (When I was there, the wait would’ve been 90-120 minutes.) My friend snapped that picture, blocking someone…

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Follow Your Jealousy

When I told folks I was going to work remotely from Bali for a month, a lot of them said they were jealous. Good for them. Jealousy tells us what we want. If you feel any amount of jealousy when I talk about my trip…why? Is it because I’m in an exotic location? Because I’m…

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Hello from Mexico!

Hola from San Miguel de Allende, Mexico! (And from Guanajuato before this, pictured below.) While the high temperature in Chicago will be -12ºF tomorrow, I’m not here to escape the cold. I’m here because I’ve made a decision about the way I want to live my life. A little over a year ago, instead of…

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All the Self-Care in the World Won’t Help.

Everyone seems to be talking about self-care these days. Don’t get me wrong. It’s important. But self-care is not the magic potion it’s made out to be.  ~ Have you gone for a run, but all you could think about is what you should’ve said in that meeting? ~ Have you gotten a massage, but…

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I Was So Mean.

This summer was about healing my hip and my heart. Perfect timing since I’m in the middle of writing a series about self-compassion…. #practicewhatyoupreach Back in the day, if there was a way to plug a speaker into my brain, you would’ve heard me tell myself, “You’re such an idiot.” It sounds so awful, but I…

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Want to be nicer to yourself?

This is Part 3 in a series about self-compassion. Check out Part 1 and Part 2 here. Subscribe below to get Part 4 sent directly to your inbox.  Hypothetically, what if there was a cool new project at work? The topic really interested you…it would use a lot of your skills…and maybe there were some really amazing travel opportunities involved.…

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You haven’t seen me lately.

Hello! Remember me? I usually write you every couple of weeks, but it’s been six long weeks since I last said “hello.” There have been several “you’ve got to be kidding me” challenges that have deflated me in the last couple of months. Tack these hard last months onto my hard last year and I’ve been…

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Self-Compassion Changed My Life.

I was once a perfectionist. I saw it as one of my top qualities: that I would work until something was done to the best of my abilities. Because I worked so hard, I was disappointed and disillusioned when things didn’t work out as hoped. For example, I was a professional actor for most of my…

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There really is No One Way.

Sometimes, there are unintended consequences, even when we think we’re very clear. Last October, I was excited to launch the No One Way™ project with this post. From October to this past January, I posted 36 “sketches” that different people created, depicting their own unique, non-linear career paths. You can see all of the sketches…

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Is this some kind of joke?

Do you remember the one about my grandfather passing, my basement flooding, and my boyfriend breaking up with me all in one week? Seriously, it sounds like the set-up of a (not funny) joke, doesn’t it?! Last week, I had a doozy of a day. ~8:30am~ I had my first-ever mammogram. (Hello, 40.) ~9am~ I had an…

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You Will Be Okay.

A few weeks ago, I wrote about approaching my 40th birthday. I’ve been thinking a lot about the difference between me-now and me-awhile-ago. A lot of it’s related to the conversation I have with myself. It’s changed wildly over the last twenty years. Several mornings this past week, one of the first thoughts I’ve strung together…

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We do the best we can.

One of my best friends shared this Maya Angelou quote with me a few years ago. “Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.” Actually, my friend paraphrased it a bit. I might like her version even more. “We do the best we can until we know…

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