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Self-Compassion

All the Self-Care in the World Won’t Help.

Everyone seems to be talking about self-care these days. Don’t get me wrong. It’s important. But self-care is not the magic potion it’s made out to be.  ~ Have you gone for a run, but all you could think about is what you should’ve said in that meeting? ~ Have you gotten a massage, but…

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I Was So Mean.

This summer was about healing my hip and my heart. Perfect timing since I’m in the middle of writing a series about self-compassion…. #practicewhatyoupreach Back in the day, if there was a way to plug a speaker into my brain, you would’ve heard me tell myself, “You’re such an idiot.” It sounds so awful, but I…

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Want to be nicer to yourself?

This is Part 3 in a series about self-compassion. Check out Part 1 and Part 2 here. Subscribe below to get Part 4 sent directly to your inbox.  Hypothetically, what if there was a cool new project at work? The topic really interested you…it would use a lot of your skills…and maybe there were some really amazing travel opportunities involved.…

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You haven’t seen me lately.

Hello! Remember me? I usually write you every couple of weeks, but it’s been six long weeks since I last said “hello.” There have been several “you’ve got to be kidding me” challenges that have deflated me in the last couple of months. Tack these hard last months onto my hard last year and I’ve been…

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Self-Compassion Changed My Life.

I was once a perfectionist. I saw it as one of my top qualities: that I would work until something was done to the best of my abilities. Because I worked so hard, I was disappointed and disillusioned when things didn’t work out as hoped. For example, I was a professional actor for most of my…

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You Will Be Okay.

A few weeks ago, I wrote about approaching my 40th birthday. I’ve been thinking a lot about the difference between me-now and me-awhile-ago. A lot of it’s related to the conversation I have with myself. It’s changed wildly over the last twenty years. Several mornings this past week, one of the first thoughts I’ve strung together…

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Two Days Before I Turn 40

This week, I turn 40. 39 was the hardest year in all of my thirties. A year ago, on March 1, I was so excited for my next year. I wrote in my journal, “39, bring it on! I’m ready to love you and live you! I had (and thankfully still have) my health, a growing…

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Part Three: The Upholder

I have some friends who have always mystified me. How do they always seem to get everything done? One of my oldest, dearest friends is a talented playwright… She’s always carved out time to write, even when she was just starting off and hadn’t had any plays produced. She now works full-time as a university professor…

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We do the best we can.

One of my best friends shared this Maya Angelou quote with me a few years ago. “Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.” Actually, my friend paraphrased it a bit. I might like her version even more. “We do the best we can until we know…

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