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All the Self-Care in the World Won’t Help.
Everyone seems to be talking about self-care these days. Don’t get me wrong. It’s important. But self-care is not the magic potion it’s made out to be. ~ Have you gone for a run, but all you could think about is what you should’ve said in that meeting? ~ Have you gotten a massage, but…
Read MoreI Was So Mean.
This summer was about healing my hip and my heart. Perfect timing since I’m in the middle of writing a series about self-compassion…. #practicewhatyoupreach Back in the day, if there was a way to plug a speaker into my brain, you would’ve heard me tell myself, “You’re such an idiot.” It sounds so awful, but I…
Read MoreYou haven’t seen me lately.
Hello! Remember me? I usually write you every couple of weeks, but it’s been six long weeks since I last said “hello.” There have been several “you’ve got to be kidding me” challenges that have deflated me in the last couple of months. Tack these hard last months onto my hard last year and I’ve been…
Read MoreYou Will Be Okay.
A few weeks ago, I wrote about approaching my 40th birthday. I’ve been thinking a lot about the difference between me-now and me-awhile-ago. A lot of it’s related to the conversation I have with myself. It’s changed wildly over the last twenty years. Several mornings this past week, one of the first thoughts I’ve strung together…
Read MorePart Four: The Rebel
This is Part 4 in a 4-part series about The Four Tendencies. This series was inspired by working with one of my dear clients… She’s an exemplary client during sessions. When she shows up, she’s always present, communicative, honest, and invested. At the end of every session, she feels clarity and excitement to go forth…
Read MorePart Three: The Upholder
I have some friends who have always mystified me. How do they always seem to get everything done? One of my oldest, dearest friends is a talented playwright… She’s always carved out time to write, even when she was just starting off and hadn’t had any plays produced. She now works full-time as a university professor…
Read MoreNo One Way! (Sketch 35)
Meet Cynthia Jones… I asked Cynthia… What advice would you give your 20 year old self, looking back from where you are now? Life isn’t a race, and it doesn’t have a set path. Be deliberate in recognizing what YOU want and value. Don’t do what you SHOULD – such marry because it’s the next…
Read MorePart Two: The Questioner
I appreciate all of the feedback to last week’s post about the Obliger Tendency. One reader wrote, “I’m huddled in my bedroom getting caught up on all my work and personal emails. I was feeling so upset—honestly, I thought I was having a nervous breakdown. But miraculously, your blog was waiting for me, and I feel better because I know I’m…
Read MorePart One: The Obliger
At the end of last year, I read a book that completely changed the way I look at myself and others. It’s called The Four Tendencies, by Gretchen Rubin. (I initially wrote about it in this post.) Upholder, Obliger, Questioner, or Rebel? I think the Tendencies are so important to understand (and to recognize in ourselves and others) that I’m doing…
Read MoreA new journey has begun.
Happy New Year! I hope that your holidays were joyful and relaxing. I started the new year with yoga yesterday, led by one of my favorite instructors. She read us a lovely passage at the beginning of our practice. I thought you might like it, too. “Beginnings can be delicate or explosive. They can start almost invisibly or arrive…
Read MoreNo One Way! (Sketch 32)
Meet Kimberly Reid… Looking at her sketch, Kimberly writes… In 2015, my career took an about face and landed straight on its head, and in a sense, returned me to why I started doing the work I chose to do 15 years prior. What was evident to me in 2015 was that I felt stuck,…
Read MoreNo One Way! (Sketch 26)
~ This past October, I launched No One Way™ over in Instagram. ~ The project visually illustrates how people have really gotten to where they are now. ~ Every M/W/F, I post a new career sketch on IG. Every Friday, we do a deep dive into one of the sketches here. Meet Anne… I asked Anne… What advice…
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